Who Am I in Ministry?

Posted by | June 15, 2015 | Identity, Pastors' Wives | 6 Comments

Do you ever find yourself asking the question, “Who Am I in Ministry?” Do you ever feel like you are a shadow in your husband’s ministry? Or do you ever feel you are not important or always overlooked?

If you answered yes to any or all of those questions, you are not alone. We as pastors’ wives have a hard job. We can be surrounded by people all the time, yet feel all alone. We can become so frustrated with all the expectations put on us that we could scream.

God did not intend for ministry to be that way for us. He has a calling on your life as much as He does for your husband. That calling just looks different. And it will be different in the different stages of life we go through. Yes, you are called to be your husband’s helpmate, but God also has a ministry for you to do outside of just being the pastor’s wife.

If you are frustrated with knowing who you are in ministry, can I suggest you sit down in a quiet place and ask God to still your heart and mind and ask Him to show you what He has for you? You are more than just the “pastor’s wife.”

Your stage right now may be with young children and your priority has to be them; therefore, your ministry is very limited. That is okay.  Just make sure you know what that ministry looks like and you are not spreading yourself too thin or getting your priorities out of whack.

You may be past the small child rearing stage and have teenagers, so you can be a little more involved in ministry. Again, I would suggest you make sure you are involved in the ministry God wants you to be involved in and not what everyone else thinks you should be doing.

Maybe your children are all grown or you don’t have children and you can be involved as much as your heart desires. I will say it once again; do what God has called you to do, not what everyone else calls you to do.

Ministry should be a joy not drudgery. My prayer for you is that you will allow God to use you in the area(s) He wants and you will do it with a joyful heart, all while enjoying being your husband’s helpmate. That is a very important role and our number one ministry. But it doesn’t mean we have to be the shadow of his ministry.

About Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for 39 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

6 Comments

  • Tammy says:

    Thanks for the post. I think that people expect that I should be involved in many different areas of our ministry. And I feel sometimes that I get frowned upon for not doing so. But it is so true to be where God wants me to be.

  • Brooke Rea says:

    This was very encouraging. My husband is going into ministry evangelizing along with the rest of our family (mother and sisters in law). And I have always been the type of person that loves being involved and in the middle of things, but I have 2 small children and one on the way and home school as well. Lately, I have been struggling knowing that I can’t be hands on involved all the time because I have children to take care of. And it has been a bit confusing. But reading this along with a sermon from David Wilkerson, it has been confirmed to me that right now this is my calling. To raise up my children in the ways of the Lord and to support and pray for my husband when he is out in the front lines. This pregnancy that I am in right now was a miracle from God considering I was not supposed to be able to have more. And so this is my calling. To take of these babies and teach them. And I thank you for these of confirmation and encouragement. God bless.

  • Basilia Ogbuku says:

    The posts on this blog are so encouraging. God bless you.

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