Do you ever feel like you don’t even know who you are? Are you so busy trying to be everything to everyone else that you have lost your own identity? Many times as a pastor’s wife we can find ourselves in that situation.

I want to challenge you to make your relationship with Christ your number one priority, then your husband, your family and then the church. When that gets out of balance life is totally out of balance.

I recently read a book by Donna Alder entitled When the Pastor is Your Husband. This is a good book for those of us in ministry to remind us how not to lose our identity and stay balanced.

Here is a description of the book:



These difficulties can be more tenable when one examines frustrations and puts them into an eternal frame of reference. Alder expands perspectives and relays advice mined from the experiences of thousands of ministry wives to bring you When the Pastor Is Your Husband. She shares real-life stories to come alongside women considering, anticipating, and engaged in ministry marriage.

Like a good friend whose company is cherished when life is filled with challenges, this book reveals down-to-earth encouragements for the ministry wife’s everyday life.

I would encourage you to get this book and allow her writings to encourage you in ministry. 

About Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for 39 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

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