14 Reasons Church Conflicts Just Keep Escalating

Posted by | March 04, 2020 | For Pastors, Ministry Life | No Comments

By Chuck Lawless

Ever wondered why church conflict just keeps growing? Here are some reasons the fires of church conflict often burn out of control quickly:

  1. Members care about something. Some conflict in the church heats up in direct proportion to how much people care about some issue in the church. Their care and their ownership may be misdirected, but they fight for something precisely because they care about it that much.
  2. Church leaders have too little training in resolving conflict. What we have learned, we’ve often learned the hard way: in the middle of a conflict, and then primarily through our failures.
  3. We face a supernatural enemy who delights in conflict. From the Garden of Eden, Satan has sought to turn followers of God against other followers. He’s sly – and viciously and quickly divisive.
  4. Kindling for conflict sometimes lies all over the congregation. That’s what happens when internal conflicts smolder throughout the church. Each “conflict” may be small, but the combination of many conflicts creates ready-made fuel.
  5. Nobody’s paying attention to sparks. I’m amazed by how many leaders are caught off guard when their congregation erupts in flames. That usually means the leaders are too disconnected from their people.
  6. The church has no “up front” relational expectations. The churches I know that deal well with conflict are those who teach how to deal with relational conflict as early as their membership class. 
  7. Nobody’s praying for unity. If Jesus prayed that prayer for His followers (John 17:21), we, too, should be praying for this unity.
  8. People operate in secret.  Anonymous complaints. Unsigned letters. Behind the scenes meetings. Opposition rallies cloaked as “prayer meetings.” It’s all secretive – and it’s often demonic.
  9. Some church members specialize in fueling fires. They delight in creating conflict and spreading gossip, sometimes deceitfully so under the guise of “prayer requests.”
  10. Undiscipled people aren’t equipped to deal with potential fires. They’re still babies in Christ – and babies don’t recognize the danger of fires. Actually, somebody must rescue them, or they’ll get burned, too.
  11. Some congregations have a history of fires. They’ve almost burned down in conflict so many times that fires have become the norm. When a fire’s always burning, it doesn’t take much to become a conflagration.
  12. Everything’s dry. The preaching is boring. Evangelism isn’t happening. The worship music puts people to sleep. Nobody’s talking about missions. Young people are nowhere to be found. When everything’s dry, one small spark can quickly consume it all.
  13. Leaders don’t address legitimate concerns. When church leaders blatantly ignore those concerns, nonchalantly hear them, or superficially address them, the conflict remains.
  14. Nobody carries out church discipline. If the church doesn’t take necessary steps to deal with troublesome members (or, if they do so, but in an unbiblical or uncharitable way), they prolong the conflict.

Any reasons you would add to this list?

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Chuck Lawless currently serves as Professor of Evangelism and Missions and Dean of Graduate Studies at Southeastern Seminary. You can connect with Dr. Lawless on Twitter @Clawlessjr and on at facebook.com/CLawless.

About Ron Cook

Ron and his wife Rodetta have been married 41 years. They have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. Ron ministers to hundreds of pastors annually through mentorship, counseling and by phone. He has been a Pastor for 40 years and understands the stress of ministry, and wants to share his longevity in ministry with other pastors and help them finish well.

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