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When the Church Gets Messy, What Happens to the Pastor’s Marriage?

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By Tatyana Claytor When I was pregnant with my first child, my husband and I packed up our belongings, quit our jobs and moved across the country to go to seminary. We felt the call of God on our lives and wanted to serve Him in ministry, whether here or overseas. Our hearts were eager with the prospect of seeing God at work. After a year, we were lucky to find an assignment for my husband, Tracy, as a youth pastor….

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Learn to Laugh

Posted by | Balance, Pastors' Wives, Spiritual Walk | One Comment

Are you taking yourself and life too seriously? Sometimes we tend to think we as pastors’ wives have to have all the answers or can’t laugh at ourselves. But we can’t have all the answers and there are times we need to laugh at ourselves. My devotion recently spoke to this subject and blessed me, and I pray it will bless you as well. Learn to laugh at yourself more freely. Don’t take yourself or your circumstances so seriously. Relax…

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Wounded by God’s People

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One of my “go to” books in ministry is Wounded by God’s People by Anne Graham Lotz. We don’t have to be in ministry very long until we are hurt by someone and it hurts deeply when it is a church member. The reason it hurts deeply is because all we have done is love them, laugh with them, cry with them and serve them. What do we do with that hurt? We must deal with it or it will…

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Healthy Ministry Doesn’t Just Happen

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The heart of Care for Pastors is to see every pastoral family thriving in ministry. Thriving means that the Pastor and his family are exhibiting healthy spirituality that honors Christ and impacts the kingdom. It is our belief that healthy ministry flows from a healthy marriage. You cannot have a healthy ministry if your marriage is in shambles. This is one of the reasons that the apostle Paul included it in the list of qualities found in the life of…

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First Counseling Session

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If you have missed reading the past three weeks of email/blogs, I would encourage you to go back and read Eric’s Story. We have dedicated four weeks to this story because we feel it is so important to share. Eric’s wife, Krissie, has been very bold and brave to share his story and we needed to share it as well. Today Krissie shares about her first counseling appointment 14 days after Eric’s tragic death. Today I met with my counselor….

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