Family Life

Why I Never Try to Balance Family and Ministry

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By Bob Hostelter It’s one of the most frequent questions I field, and it’s always asked so sincerely, even desperately: “How do you balance ministry and family?” My answer: I don’t. In fact, I think the very question reveals the problem. There IS no balance. It is NOT an either/or issue. There’s nothing to balance. And thinking that there is is a problem in and of itself. I say to young men and women considering or embarking upon ministry, “Your family…

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An Open Letter From a Pastor’s Kid

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Working with pastors’ kids has been an enlightening experience. I grew up a PK and am still one to this day. When I entered into this ministry position at Care for Pastors, I thought I could relate to all (if not most) PK’s. I have since learned that I relate in many ways, but also can’t comprehend what some may feel and experience. One thing is certain: I learn from every PK I speak to. Each has a voice and…

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Three Questions to Help You Reconnect With Your Spouse

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I recently read a book by Wayne Cordeiro, titled, “Leading on Empty”.  In the book he makes the following statement, “Healthy marriages require intentionality and planned investment.” I couldn’t agree more. At the same time, I was reading a blog about how to energize your relationships.  Here are three questions that can add value, vitality, and vibrance, to any relationship.  The article suggested that these questions could be asked at the beginning of every week.  If you are not able…

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Pastor, Love Your Wife

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By Dave Furman Walking the Talk One might think it would be easy for a pastor to love his wife. A pastor preaches on marriage often enough to know how a husband should love his wife, right? Ignorance is certainly not an option. We also see pastors exhorting couples during wedding ceremonies on how to have a healthy marriage. In fact, this afternoon I am writing these words while still wearing my suit and tie from a wedding ceremony I…

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How to Affair-Proof Your Pastor

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By Jared C. Wilson First, let me get the obvious out of the way. Apologies for the “clickbait” title, but there’s no real sure-fire way to affair-proof your pastor. A man set on sin will have his way no matter how watchful and loving his support system. To put it another way, and to be even clearer, when a pastor commits adultery, he is at fault. It’s not his wife’s fault, not his congregation’s fault, not “the culture”‘s fault. It’s…

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