Expectations

Garland Family

Eric’s Story

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I want to dedicate the next four weeks to a subject that is becoming more and more prevalent in ministry circles and that is depression. Yes, even pastors and spouses deal with depression. We were recently made aware of a young 31 year old pastor who was dealing with depression and hopelessness who took his own life, and his wife is now speaking out and sharing his story. I have sat down many times at this exact computer to write…

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When Life Throws a Curve Ball

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The unrealistic expectations for a pastoral family are overwhelming at times and there are times we put those unrealistic expectations on ourselves and our family. I want to share a blog one of our staff members (a pastor’s wife) recently wrote about a “curveball” that was thrown in their world. What do we do when life does not go as we had planned? When hopes and dreams are crushed? When life throws you a curve ball? I am sitting here…

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Woman sitting in a church pew looking out a window

The Loneliness of Being a Pastor’s Wife

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Have you ever felt all alone even though you are surrounded by people all the time? If so, you must be a pastor’s wife. Our position as a pastor’s wife can be one of the loneliest positions anyone can experience, if we allow it to be. We must work at making friendships outside of the church in order for this loneliness to not take root in our lives. Here are some things that have been said to me and other…

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Woman staring off into the distance

Don’t Judge a Person by Their Outward Appearance

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I want to share a blog from one of our pastors’ wives here at Care for Pastors on a topic that we as women know all too well. We are all guilty of judging people as soon as they walk in the room before we ever meet them. Am I the only guilty? I don’t think so. I know God has worked on me in that area over the years, but there are times I go back to that human…

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Healthy Boundaries

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Do you have healthy boundaries set in your ministry? In your marriage? In your family life? Unfortunately, very few pastors and spouses have healthy boundaries set in any of these areas. If you have been in ministry any length of time you know that if healthy boundaries aren’t set at the beginning of your ministry, it is almost impossible to go back and set them. We deal with hundreds of pastors and/or spouses here at Care for Pastors each year…

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