The Broken Parts Reveal the Beauty Inside

I have asked a friend of mine, Joy, who is a pastor’s wife if I could share one of her blogs that I believe will be a tremendous blessing to you.

It has been one year since the shock and pain rocked us. 2019 was painful. One year later my husband and I walked on a beautiful beach in Sarasota. We reflected on the hurt, the challenges of the year, and also we marveled at the way the Lord ordained our steps. Seeing how He opened doors and made a way has made us so thankful. No doubt He redeemed things and placed us where He called us. Which is so exciting. Although that is true, we both agreed that it doesn’t remove the pain of what happened.

For the first time in a year, I am thankful for the pain. It broke me. But I realize that brokenness did something that no amount of joy and happiness could do. It etched something in me. It left some spots jagged and sharp. God is working on smoothing some of those over. Those edges make me want to hide and retreat. But there is beauty peaking out from those spots. Beauty that would not be exposed without the waves, without the cracks, without the breaking.

On our walk on the beach I picked up a beautiful shell. What makes it beautiful are the parts that are broken. Those parts show etchings underneath. A design that is unique and special. That design would not show through unless the rocky waves broke some parts of that shell. You see, God is always working in us. And we all have a story and a plan. We have etchings that will not be seen by others unless some parts are broken.

I thought this year broke me in half. I thought it made me useless for ministry. What I didn’t know is that it was making me better for ministry. More powerful because there is something etched and designed in me that won’t be revealed without that pain.

That design is part of God’s plan for me. I have prayed my whole life that God would use me. That I would walk in His plan. I have God-given dreams. Dreams that include ministering and caring for those who care and minister. In a previous blog I quoted Rick Warren who said:

“Your greatest life messages and your most effective ministry will come out of your deepest hurts“.

That hurt is etching and exposing a beauty in me that would not be seen without this pain. That deep hurt is being used to make my ministry powerful because I can reach people I never could have before. I can minister in a way I couldn’t before. It has given me a sensitivity I didn’t have before.

Here is the caveat. You have a choice to make. You can hide and retreat after brokenness. And I wouldn’t blame you. You can protect those sharp edges. You can cover the etching and design. But no one will see the beauty. God has so much to do through and in you. That hurt has also done something else in me. It has been a year of tears. Of loss. Of confusion. Of questioning. It has riled up that voice of rejection that I struggled with my whole life. I continue to hear “You are not good enough.” I hear, “You can’t help anyone.”

At first I gave into those voices. But now I refuse to. I still hear them. But when I do I talk about it. I tell my husband. I tell a trusted friend. And they help me through it. The enemy wants you to listen and believe those voices that came out of the painful experience. Fight it! Don’t do it!

If you let God reveal the beauty that came from the pain, you will have a more powerful story that will reach people in a more effective way.

We sang a song in church today about God standing in the fire next to us. He is there in the pain. He is there in the hurt. He is with you in the battle.

There’ll be another in the fire

Standing next to me

There’ll be another in the waters

Holding back the seas

And should I ever need reminding

How good You’ve been to me

I’ll count the joy come every battle

‘Cause I know that’s where You’ll be

– Joy P

Unfortunately, many pastors’ wives reading this blog can relate to the trauma of “forced termination.” There is hope after the trauma, but we must seek help to get through the healing process.

We see many pastoral families come through the ministry here at Care for Pastors who have experienced a forced termination, but have chosen to grow through the challenges instead of just going through them and allowing themselves to become angry or a casualty. We are here to walk with you on your journey whatever it looks like. Please let us help.

Click here to read the original blog on JoyforMinistry.com

About Rodetta Cook

Rodetta Cook has been a pastor’s wife for over 40 years. She and her husband, Ron, have actively served the Lord together in ministry during the entire time and are co-founders of Care for Pastors. She understands the expectations, loneliness and how hard it is to find balance in ministry as a pastor’s wife. Rodetta also leads the pastor’s wives initiative at Care for Pastors called The Confidante and ministers to hundreds of wives each week. She strives to share blogs with other pastors’ wives that will help them in their ministry walk.

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